Lesson number six: Don't offer to buy things for her. That is unless you are looking for a gold digger. I see so many ads that make references to taking a girl somewhere and buying her dinner. First of all, why would you buy a complete stranger anything? I understand the whole chivalry concept and men instinctively wanting to demonstrate their ability to be a good provider but let's not put the cart in front of the horse. In this day and age few self-respecting women make the assumption that the guy always pays. Frankly, if you advertise yourself as a big spender you will attract gold diggers and impoverished women. I don't know about you but that's not what I'm looking for. If you hit it off and want to take her to dinner, that's fine. But throwing an open offer out there just makes you look desperate.
Lesson number seven: Be positive. Talking about how you get a bunch of spam and don't believe that there are any "Real" women in the forum does not help you. Complaining about your past relationships and experiences with online dating is detrimental to your success. No one wants to hang out with a loser.