Friday, December 19, 2008

How to get what you want

Sometimes the easiest way to get what you are after is simply to ask for it.

I recently posted an ad stating that I wanted a woman of a very specific physical type. As usual, I received quite a few responses. Many were from women who did not meet my standards and only three of them actually did. As I have stated before, my response rate is pretty high. I get about 10-15 emails per day and that is not counting spam. Fortunately my filters do a lot of the work for me. I am convinced that my writing style is one of the main reasons for the success of my ads. I routinely get compliments on how well written, funny, and unique my posts are. You must stand out in the crowd as there are thousands of guys using the personals. That's a lot of competition. Unfortunately for them, a lack of experience, low self esteem, or bruised ego often causes them to miss out on a lot of opportunities.

Back to the subject. One response in particular got my attention. To make a long story short, I had described this person's type so well that not only did she send me some very attractive pictures of herself, but her phone number also without ever even knowing what I look like. I called her and she insisted on meeting me as soon as possible, which ended up being about an hour and a half later. We met for drinks and what happened afterward I will leave to your imagination because I am not interested in writing Penthouse Forum articles. Let's just say that I did not get any sleep that night. It was a very long day after at work but well worth the sacrifice.

Try it! Figure out exactly what you want in a woman. Use your best grammar and describe her. Don't be crude. Be eloquent. Be risque. But don't make yourself sound like all of the other desperate guys.

Monday, December 1, 2008

Lessons 6-7

Lesson number six: Don't offer to buy things for her. That is unless you are looking for a gold digger. I see so many ads that make references to taking a girl somewhere and buying her dinner. First of all, why would you buy a complete stranger anything? I understand the whole chivalry concept and men instinctively wanting to demonstrate their ability to be a good provider but let's not put the cart in front of the horse. In this day and age few self-respecting women make the assumption that the guy always pays. Frankly, if you advertise yourself as a big spender you will attract gold diggers and impoverished women. I don't know about you but that's not what I'm looking for. If you hit it off and want to take her to dinner, that's fine. But throwing an open offer out there just makes you look desperate.

Lesson number seven: Be positive. Talking about how you get a bunch of spam and don't believe that there are any "Real" women in the forum does not help you. Complaining about your past relationships and experiences with online dating is detrimental to your success. No one wants to hang out with a loser.