Thursday, March 19, 2009
Lots of new stuff soon...
Hey people. I haven't taken a lot of time to blog lately not only due to the lack of time but also because I type slower than a WalMart cashier rings up merchandise. I'm getting a dictation program in a couple days so I will be able to do this a lot faster. Stay tuned...
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Defeating spam
When you employ the techniques that I describe here probably the first thing that you will notice is spam. There is a ton of it on CL. The good news is that it's pretty easy to identify if not avoid altogether. While I can't publish all of my best ideas, tips and tricks for meeting the hottest women on the internet I will freely tell anyone who listens how to greatly reduce the amount of spam in their lives because I despise it so much... except when I employ it for my own personal gain. Yes, it's a double standard. Life is full of them. Get used to it.
Always post at least two ads at the same time from the same account. When you get two responses with the same content you will know that it's coming from someone who took no time to actually read your post. That means it's either a bot or someone who is replying to all ads, i.e. a guy working for a porn site or a girl who is desperate. None of which you are interested in.
Include a request for specific information in your ad. If it's a close call as to whether the responder is real, asking them to call you by name, reference something in your ad or simply answer a specific question will make it easy for you to tell if a real person actually read your ad or not.
Set up an auto responder. If you don't want all of your ads to sound the same you can always ask her to answer your questions after she replies. Mine says something along these lines:
Hey there! Thanks for replying. Before I can decide if you are the woman of my dreams or not I need to be absolutely certain that you are real. I'm an optimist so I hope that you are but before I tell you my life story...
You get the idea. You can even include a different email address in your auto responder that you actually use and let it "screen" your responses before you waste any time on junk mail. It's exactly what the spammers do. Beat them at their own game!
Gotta start cooking dinner for a hot Brazilian Babe. I'll be back with more later.
Always post at least two ads at the same time from the same account. When you get two responses with the same content you will know that it's coming from someone who took no time to actually read your post. That means it's either a bot or someone who is replying to all ads, i.e. a guy working for a porn site or a girl who is desperate. None of which you are interested in.
Include a request for specific information in your ad. If it's a close call as to whether the responder is real, asking them to call you by name, reference something in your ad or simply answer a specific question will make it easy for you to tell if a real person actually read your ad or not.
Set up an auto responder. If you don't want all of your ads to sound the same you can always ask her to answer your questions after she replies. Mine says something along these lines:
Hey there! Thanks for replying. Before I can decide if you are the woman of my dreams or not I need to be absolutely certain that you are real. I'm an optimist so I hope that you are but before I tell you my life story...
You get the idea. You can even include a different email address in your auto responder that you actually use and let it "screen" your responses before you waste any time on junk mail. It's exactly what the spammers do. Beat them at their own game!
Gotta start cooking dinner for a hot Brazilian Babe. I'll be back with more later.
Friday, February 20, 2009
When she replies without a photo
"Who is the girl with no pictures that replied to me? She must be ugly"
Don't be so certain about that. I have met a lot of hot girls who just wanted to be discreet.
I realize now after many conversations with women whom I've met on CL why it is so much easier to work than the paid (and even free) personals. A lot of females do not want to post their picture online in this context. Most paid personal services require that you submit a clear photo of your face. Not only that, you also have to spend a good hour or so completing a profile form. For the person who is just "experimenting" this is just too much of an investment. Remember that women like to try new things and "see what happens." Going through the application and submission process for a personal service is a solid commitment that says "I am lonely and I can't find a man in the real world." Replying to ads on Craigslist without a picture is not only anonymous but also perfect for the whole "If it's meant to be..." mindset.
"So how do I find out what she looks like without wasting a lot of time?"
Well, if you subscribe to my newsletter you already know the answer to this one. If not I suggest you sign up today for the only newsletter written specifically for meeting attractive girls on CL. Just send an email to greatpersonalads@gmail.com
Don't be so certain about that. I have met a lot of hot girls who just wanted to be discreet.
I realize now after many conversations with women whom I've met on CL why it is so much easier to work than the paid (and even free) personals. A lot of females do not want to post their picture online in this context. Most paid personal services require that you submit a clear photo of your face. Not only that, you also have to spend a good hour or so completing a profile form. For the person who is just "experimenting" this is just too much of an investment. Remember that women like to try new things and "see what happens." Going through the application and submission process for a personal service is a solid commitment that says "I am lonely and I can't find a man in the real world." Replying to ads on Craigslist without a picture is not only anonymous but also perfect for the whole "If it's meant to be..." mindset.
"So how do I find out what she looks like without wasting a lot of time?"
Well, if you subscribe to my newsletter you already know the answer to this one. If not I suggest you sign up today for the only newsletter written specifically for meeting attractive girls on CL. Just send an email to greatpersonalads@gmail.com
Friday, February 13, 2009
Posting a photo in your ad
I have to run here in a few. It's Friday night and tomorrow is Valentine's Day! I've got a relatively small amount of time to come up with some unique gift ideas.
A lot of people make a mad rush to find a date for February 14th. It is a great opportunity to meet single (lonely) women. Let me add that the few days after Valentine's are excellent also as some of them never found Prince Charming and will only be reminded of their solitude by this holiday. That means that if you are still looking for a woman the day after tomorrow, there will be plenty who are still very available. Keep on posting!
A lot of people have been asking me about what kind of photo to include in their ad/profile. The answer varies but I will answer the question in a way that everyone should be able to understand. Figure out what category you fit into and then take the appropriate action:
Good looking guys - Post a picture of yourself! Unless you are afraid that someone you know might see you there is no reason not to use your appearance to your advantage. Don't use the one with your ex-girlfriend or mom in it. Activity shots, like you riding your dirt bike, hang gliding, or at the beach are great just as long as they can make out your face or other attractive feature(s). If you don't have anything like that handy, just put up a picture that does clearly show off your handsomeness. I want to discourage you from posing shirtless unless that is appropriate for the setting. In other words, if you are swimming ok. If it's you in your house, posing shirtless comes off as if you are trying too hard. Wearing clothing that flatters your physique is fine but try to avoid looking like you want to audition for Chippendales. Another problem you will encounter is that some girls will think that you are just another member of the meat market looking to get laid. It can even intimidate the one's who aren't happy with their own bodies - most of the female population.
Average looking guys - The advice that I give you is the same as what I tell the more unattractive guys. Don't post your photo. There are millions of average guys in the world trying to get a date. You will almost always be immediately disqualified because you are not exceptional. My challenge is exactly that. I do not look like a CK model. Some girls find me attractive but many do not when they look at my pictures. The good news is that once I give them the opportunity to find out how cool I am and what makes me so different than the majority of guys out there, then and only then will they be ready to see the man behind the words. By that time, they are already more concerned with who I am rather than how perfect my face is so all that becomes far less important. I can't tell you how many times girls have told me that they didn't think of me "that way" until we had a little conversation.
"But don't ads with pictures get way more responses?"
Yes, to be accurate they do get more views. Ultimately they will get more responses if you choose the right picture. Which is why it is crucial that you do post a photo.
"Well if I shouldn't post a picture of my ugly mug then I'm finished?"
Well, I said post a picture. That doesn't mean that it has to be a picture of you! I get about 20 emails per day when I have my ads up. When I post without any pictures I get one or two. The math is simple. For my posts I use a lot of landscapes, clouds, and other female friendly photos. Some I took myself, others I found surfing the internet. What photo you select says a lot about you. Choose wisely. One she clicks on your ad, you have her attention. At that point the body of your message becomes the next deciding factor. I'll get into that later...
If you do post your picture, don't post the ones from ten years ago when you still had hair and no beer belly. You are only setting yourself up for rejection when she realizes that you are basically a fake.
As a last bit of advice for today, remember what type of woman you want to attract. For example if you like cowgirls then don't dress like a metrosexual.
Eventually she will ask for your picture after you have communicated a bit. My next post will cover that...
A lot of people make a mad rush to find a date for February 14th. It is a great opportunity to meet single (lonely) women. Let me add that the few days after Valentine's are excellent also as some of them never found Prince Charming and will only be reminded of their solitude by this holiday. That means that if you are still looking for a woman the day after tomorrow, there will be plenty who are still very available. Keep on posting!
A lot of people have been asking me about what kind of photo to include in their ad/profile. The answer varies but I will answer the question in a way that everyone should be able to understand. Figure out what category you fit into and then take the appropriate action:
Good looking guys - Post a picture of yourself! Unless you are afraid that someone you know might see you there is no reason not to use your appearance to your advantage. Don't use the one with your ex-girlfriend or mom in it. Activity shots, like you riding your dirt bike, hang gliding, or at the beach are great just as long as they can make out your face or other attractive feature(s). If you don't have anything like that handy, just put up a picture that does clearly show off your handsomeness. I want to discourage you from posing shirtless unless that is appropriate for the setting. In other words, if you are swimming ok. If it's you in your house, posing shirtless comes off as if you are trying too hard. Wearing clothing that flatters your physique is fine but try to avoid looking like you want to audition for Chippendales. Another problem you will encounter is that some girls will think that you are just another member of the meat market looking to get laid. It can even intimidate the one's who aren't happy with their own bodies - most of the female population.
Average looking guys - The advice that I give you is the same as what I tell the more unattractive guys. Don't post your photo. There are millions of average guys in the world trying to get a date. You will almost always be immediately disqualified because you are not exceptional. My challenge is exactly that. I do not look like a CK model. Some girls find me attractive but many do not when they look at my pictures. The good news is that once I give them the opportunity to find out how cool I am and what makes me so different than the majority of guys out there, then and only then will they be ready to see the man behind the words. By that time, they are already more concerned with who I am rather than how perfect my face is so all that becomes far less important. I can't tell you how many times girls have told me that they didn't think of me "that way" until we had a little conversation.
"But don't ads with pictures get way more responses?"
Yes, to be accurate they do get more views. Ultimately they will get more responses if you choose the right picture. Which is why it is crucial that you do post a photo.
"Well if I shouldn't post a picture of my ugly mug then I'm finished?"
Well, I said post a picture. That doesn't mean that it has to be a picture of you! I get about 20 emails per day when I have my ads up. When I post without any pictures I get one or two. The math is simple. For my posts I use a lot of landscapes, clouds, and other female friendly photos. Some I took myself, others I found surfing the internet. What photo you select says a lot about you. Choose wisely. One she clicks on your ad, you have her attention. At that point the body of your message becomes the next deciding factor. I'll get into that later...
If you do post your picture, don't post the ones from ten years ago when you still had hair and no beer belly. You are only setting yourself up for rejection when she realizes that you are basically a fake.
As a last bit of advice for today, remember what type of woman you want to attract. For example if you like cowgirls then don't dress like a metrosexual.
Eventually she will ask for your picture after you have communicated a bit. My next post will cover that...
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Taking my ads down
I haven't posted here in a while because I simply have not had the time. I have dated more women in the last six months than I did last year. At this point I have too many women and not enough time. The internet is an amazing thing if you know how to use it. I also won't be posting here as much to protect the effectiveness of my posting techniques. If you want to get the inside info on what I'm not telling the public you will want to subscribe to my free newsletter. Drop me a line at greatpersonalads@gmail.com and I will add you. I am also working on an e-book that should be available within the next few weeks. Only the subscribers to my newsletter will be able to order it for the time being.
Friday, December 19, 2008
How to get what you want
Sometimes the easiest way to get what you are after is simply to ask for it.
I recently posted an ad stating that I wanted a woman of a very specific physical type. As usual, I received quite a few responses. Many were from women who did not meet my standards and only three of them actually did. As I have stated before, my response rate is pretty high. I get about 10-15 emails per day and that is not counting spam. Fortunately my filters do a lot of the work for me. I am convinced that my writing style is one of the main reasons for the success of my ads. I routinely get compliments on how well written, funny, and unique my posts are. You must stand out in the crowd as there are thousands of guys using the personals. That's a lot of competition. Unfortunately for them, a lack of experience, low self esteem, or bruised ego often causes them to miss out on a lot of opportunities.
Back to the subject. One response in particular got my attention. To make a long story short, I had described this person's type so well that not only did she send me some very attractive pictures of herself, but her phone number also without ever even knowing what I look like. I called her and she insisted on meeting me as soon as possible, which ended up being about an hour and a half later. We met for drinks and what happened afterward I will leave to your imagination because I am not interested in writing Penthouse Forum articles. Let's just say that I did not get any sleep that night. It was a very long day after at work but well worth the sacrifice.
Try it! Figure out exactly what you want in a woman. Use your best grammar and describe her. Don't be crude. Be eloquent. Be risque. But don't make yourself sound like all of the other desperate guys.
I recently posted an ad stating that I wanted a woman of a very specific physical type. As usual, I received quite a few responses. Many were from women who did not meet my standards and only three of them actually did. As I have stated before, my response rate is pretty high. I get about 10-15 emails per day and that is not counting spam. Fortunately my filters do a lot of the work for me. I am convinced that my writing style is one of the main reasons for the success of my ads. I routinely get compliments on how well written, funny, and unique my posts are. You must stand out in the crowd as there are thousands of guys using the personals. That's a lot of competition. Unfortunately for them, a lack of experience, low self esteem, or bruised ego often causes them to miss out on a lot of opportunities.
Back to the subject. One response in particular got my attention. To make a long story short, I had described this person's type so well that not only did she send me some very attractive pictures of herself, but her phone number also without ever even knowing what I look like. I called her and she insisted on meeting me as soon as possible, which ended up being about an hour and a half later. We met for drinks and what happened afterward I will leave to your imagination because I am not interested in writing Penthouse Forum articles. Let's just say that I did not get any sleep that night. It was a very long day after at work but well worth the sacrifice.
Try it! Figure out exactly what you want in a woman. Use your best grammar and describe her. Don't be crude. Be eloquent. Be risque. But don't make yourself sound like all of the other desperate guys.
Monday, December 1, 2008
Lessons 6-7
Lesson number six: Don't offer to buy things for her. That is unless you are looking for a gold digger. I see so many ads that make references to taking a girl somewhere and buying her dinner. First of all, why would you buy a complete stranger anything? I understand the whole chivalry concept and men instinctively wanting to demonstrate their ability to be a good provider but let's not put the cart in front of the horse. In this day and age few self-respecting women make the assumption that the guy always pays. Frankly, if you advertise yourself as a big spender you will attract gold diggers and impoverished women. I don't know about you but that's not what I'm looking for. If you hit it off and want to take her to dinner, that's fine. But throwing an open offer out there just makes you look desperate.
Lesson number seven: Be positive. Talking about how you get a bunch of spam and don't believe that there are any "Real" women in the forum does not help you. Complaining about your past relationships and experiences with online dating is detrimental to your success. No one wants to hang out with a loser.
Lesson number seven: Be positive. Talking about how you get a bunch of spam and don't believe that there are any "Real" women in the forum does not help you. Complaining about your past relationships and experiences with online dating is detrimental to your success. No one wants to hang out with a loser.
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