How to meet women on Facebook

Besides using free dating websites and Craigslist to meet girls I have recently started using social network site too. While these are a great resource for fining women it is a bit different than the formerly mention sources. What is so different about Facebook? Well for one thing you will see a lot of women who are attractive but have not gone there to meet someone. When you are on a dating site you have a good idea of why the women are there. Well of course some want to hook up while others are looking for something more serious and long term but you get the idea.

Anyways the good news is that if and when you become friends with someone on Facebook you will more than likely be able to see their relationship status and decide whether or not to pursue that person or move on to the next. So the steps are rather straightforward. Find cute girl, become friends, ask her out. Okay so how exactly do we go about this? Your methods may be different but here is an example of something I have been doing lately with good results. I'll use an interesting case here because I think that you might find it entertaining.

Last week I was going through random Facebook accounts looking for hot girls. As soon as I found one I noticed that she had shared her musical tastes and recognized an obscure artist that I am familiar with. You don't have to do the same thing but it helps if you are familiar with or familiarize yourself with something that she like but that most other people could not appreciate. So I sent her a friend request stating that "If you like [artist’s name] then you rock. I thought that I was the only one!"

By a stroke of good luck she happened to be online and replied back right away. For the record I try to send messages during prime time as immediate responses often occur and I have a "hot" lead instead of one that she thought about for a day or two. So she replied that her dad loved that artist and she grew up listening to him etc. She also accepted my friend request and I got to see some very sexy pictures that she had on her profile. So we message back and forth for a bit and then she drops the bomb and tells me that she is an entertainer. I'm thinking she's a stripper but no, it's more than that. It turns out that she is an adult actor.

Well that was a first for me and honestly I still haven't decided what I want to do. She acts more than willing to meet up but I'm just not sure if that's something that I'd be into, pun intended. Strange things do happen on the internet and what makes it so difficult is that she is really attractive. I will have to think about this one for a while...

Offline dating

Since I started this blog I have primarily focused on meeting women through the internet. While this is one of the easiest ways to hook up I don't want to ignore the obvious which is meeting women in everyday situations. There is plenty of material available for how to pick up girls in bars and clubs if you search for it. You will have to spend a lot of time sorting out the junk from the good stuff but it is out there. What I see a lack of is quality information on how to meet women under circumstances that do not require some formal type of social gathering.

Since I just posted a couple of tips on another blog I figure that the least I can do is reference it here so that none of my readers miss out. Think of these as tools which you can use to help meet women in public places. Not a complete method but some ideas that will pay off if you employ them in the right situation. I will update this page as I think of them.

Good gimmicks for attracting women in the supermarket.

1. Go through the cute cashiers line with all of the ingredients for sushi or something else that is popular but few people know how to prepare.

She will almost definitely make a comment about what you are making. If you know how to cook this is great. If not then you should definitely learn. Having a woman over for a meal that you prepared is an aphrodisiac in itself. You will have to find a way to continue the conversation when she has a spare minute or you run into her again but from now on you will be known as the "guy who makes sushi". This is good.

2. If you can't find a cute girl at the check stand, find one on the sales floor. Ask her where some exotic ingredient is located because you need it for some gourmet dish that you are preparing. Choose something popular that most people love. Watch her eyes dilate as she thinks about the dish that you describe.

I do this a lot using shrimp scampi or a desert containing chocolate.

3. Make a funny observation. "Why does every store always put the tuna on the bottom shelf?"

Okay I know that the last one isn't that funny but it can start a conversation. See what you can come up with.

Create your own survey

After my "Lose weight while you date" adventure I thought that maybe I should tone the idea down a bit while still aiming for a way to encourage participation from those who read my ads. Now getting someone interested in using sex to stay in shape borders on the casual encounter category which is something that I want to stay away from for a few reasons. The foremost being that there are a lot of guys posing as women in that section and also because I am not looking specifically for random "hook up sex."

Because I did get a lot of replies however I decided that something similar might be a good idea. Currently I have ads posted that incorporate a survey into the post. The titles are similar to "Answer these correctly and win a dream date" to "Female dating opinion wanted" and everything in between. These are not the exact titles that I used but you get the idea. Now in the body of the post I have asked several questions that are of interest to me. Topics include preferences in music, food, entertainment, etc. I ask a few key questions that aren't too invasive but will give me an idea of what type of girl I am dealing with like "What do you think about public displays of affection?" or "Are you here looking for a relationship, casual dating, or whatever happens?" Things that allow her to tell as much as she likes.

I always request a photo at the end of the post since this amount of time invested makes it likely to be ok with her. Right now I have a few of these running so I can't give them away word for word but use your imagination. There is plenty of room for creativity here.

Dating Tips First Date

Online dating articles can have some strange things to say about what you should expect from the first date. I've read so much about first date advice for men that I could write an encyclopedia on the subject. Well it feels like that anyways. Now why would I, the guy who has way more women than he can juggle at the moment need first date advice? To make a long story short I didn't. I've known how to handle a first date since high school. What I did need though was some dating advice for people who have been in a long term relationship and want to find a date. That was the dating advice that I was looking for. The first date advice was something that I read just because it was there... and it was entertaining to say the least. See? I told you that I'd make it a short answer.

So while I was looking for ways to meet more women, I had the benefit of reading a whole bunch of bad first date advice that came along with it. People who had watched way too many movies were telling me what to wear, how to avoid the wrong conversational topics and so on. At the time a lot of this dating advice might have had some relevance but that was before I started meeting women online.

So what's different about meeting women online as opposed to meeting women in everyday real life situations? Intent. That is the easiest answer that I can give you. Most people will tell you that you "Never know when you might meet that special someone..." Well I do! I'm going to meet special someones when I choose to. It's like a singles bar at my desktop and women who want to hookup are standing in line to meet guys who have a little bit of game.

I'm not going to write extensively about what to do on your first date but here are some easy to implement guidelines:

1. Don't think of it as a "date"

We are talking about women from Craigslist here. They want companionship and sex. Forget about touring the city or going horseback riding or whatever the hell it is people do on "dates". Go somewhere for a drink and some conversation.

2. Stay close to home.

What if she makes it clear that she wants to be alone with you? It happens. More than you might expect. Be prepared. The last thing you need is a 30 minute drive when she's in the mood.

3. Sit next to her if possible.

Staring across a table at someone is confrontational. If she acts funny about it at all just tell her that this is not an interview and you prefer side by side. If she puts up a lot of resistance you are already heading down the wrong path. Hopefully she's just strong willed but try to stay in charge without acting bossy. Besides, this will allow you to...

4. Touch her

Not in a creepy cop-a-feel way but casually. Start out with non invasive areas like her shoulder (the one closest to you) and her outer arm. Some of you are naturals at judging how far to go and when but if not be sure to respect her space but only as far as she wants you to. This can become a complex topic. Maybe I will do a separate post on this altogether.

5. Make her feel safe

Women like sex but they want to have it with someone who isn't going to hurt or stalk them. Tell her about how much you like animals or that you had a friend with a crazy stalker girlfriend. Don't tell her that your ex was stalking you. That could be scary for her. Communicate your "normalness". Once she trusts you it will be time to ramp up.

6. Escalate

Once you have had some casual conversation (an interesting one that is, none of the so-how-do-you-like-your-job? stuff) get closer to the point. Tell her about how you can judge a person by the way they kiss or does she want to see your (insert really interesting or unique object here) that you have at your place down the street. Give her a reason to be alone with you without making her feel sleazy.


Ok that's it for now. I'm leaving out a lot of details but this should get you started. If things don't seem to be going well and you figure it's time to bail, ask her if she wants to make out. Yes I am serious. Even if you screwed something up badly there is always a chance that she still wants to bang you. What would you have to lose at that point? Sometimes the answer will be "No" Anything other than that either means "Yes" or "Not yet".

One of my craziest ads yet!

I was thinking of ways to really get a reaction with my Craigslist personal ads. One benefit of posting free ads is that you really have little to lose. Take that and the desire to meet real women online and your brain starts to come up with creative ways to make that happen.

I decided to see how far I could push the envelope and came up with what I consider one of my most outrageous ads ever. Now I realize that one could create something with more shock value but let's remember that we are trying to meet real women online, not repel them. So how far can we go? Well, this is what I created, posted, and got some very interested responses to.



Keep in mind that most women feel that they could lose a few pounds even if they are not necessarily overweight...

"Lose weight while you date!"

"Ladies how would you like to stay in shape, meet someone who could become your potential mate, and participate in a study on the effects of rigorous sex on weight loss?

Yes this is a real ad. I am completely serious and not looking to just "hook up" for random sex. I have created a program that I believe can help people enjoy life more, stay in shape, and possibly sell a lot of books.

No your identity will not be revealed to anyone. There will be some before and after photos but your face will not be included anywhere without your permission.

Reply with a recent photo and brief bio for more information."


For the follow up I explained the details of the program as far as the when, where, and how often etc. Would you believe that I actually got responses from real women? I was blown away. It wasn't a lot but yes, there are some very horny women out there who expressed an interest in this program. Not many of them were all that attractive but most were willing and one in particular was hot enough that I decided to have an "audition" for her.

Be creative and see what you can come up with. Most importantly be different and you will generate interest. Have fun out there.

POF Meet Me

Next time you are sitting in front of your computer with nothing to do, check out the Meet Me section of Plenty of Fish. It's sort of like rate my face but with a better chance of meeting someone. I decided to experiment with the feature and it's a pretty cool way to save some time and increase the number of women that you will be chatting with. Much easier than pasting your reply into a bunch of profiles. A lot of them won't answer you but some will. The good news is that a reply is an indication that she is open to getting to know you a bit more.



Speaking of, I have been using POF a lot more lately and while it has it's challenges and complications (like women you are dating asking why you're still active so often) it is a great way to put yourself in a more proactive position than Craigslist. I have had some women send me messages on POF but I have to say that most of them I wasn't really interested in. That's the difference here. You have to contact the attractive women first as opposed to Craigslist where hot women will contact you although there is just so much spam in between.

If you haven't done so already do yourself a favor and make a profile on POF and OKCupid. They are both free and you will find plenty of women on both.

I added a search box to the blog. This was done for my own convenience because honestly I don't remember half of what I've posted and I'm trying not to repeat myself. Maybe you guys will find it useful too. Hopefully you've read my previous posts about the basics of pulling dates out of Craigslist. I haven't updated much here lately because I'm working on a way to better organize the information here. Most of what you need to know about meeting more women than you can handle is already here, just not in any particular order. Once I get everything together I promise everyone who is on the email list a free copy of the materials which will most like be in the form of an ebook.

Why some women can't get laid

I found this posted in a forum a while back. It was titled something like pick-up lines for women. There are actually a couple of good lines here but most of them suck pretty bad. Girls, don't make these mistakes. You either guys. I'll comment with my thoughts for each.

At a sports bar: "What's the most impressive goal you've ever scored in a game?"
Ok this might work if the guy happens to be/was a jock. True guys do like to talk about their accomplishments. Just make sure to change the subject soon because the topic doesn't really lead anywhere on it's own.

At a club: "I dare you to show me your moonwalk."
Kinda funny but not really. If he does show you a bad example are you going to feel more attracted to him? I see the point about being able to have fun but I'd prefer that the guy gets the girl to moonwalk instead. Now that is entertaining.

At a restaurant bar: "They have the best nachos here. Ever tried 'em?"
Boring.

At a friend's party: "I wanted to talk to you the second I got here, but no one introduced me. So I'm introducing myself."
I like this! You are making no excuses and getting right to the point even if you hesitated at first. Very direct. Use it.

At the laundromat: "I'm bored. What do you normally do when your underwear is drying?"
This would make me laugh. A lot of guys would go pervert though so be careful. You might not like the answer. For a guy to ask this he should have a good read on her at first. Otherwise he will sound like a perv.

At the park: "Any ideas on how to turn this blanket into a Twister board? I really want to play."
Too sexual. Ask me this only if you really do want to play. Naked.

At a baseball game: "I bet you a post-game drink that (insert player's name) will hit a home run this inning."
During a conversation sure. As an opener a bit much. That's the first thing out of your mouth? Who TF are you?

At the gym: "You look like you know your way around this place. Where's that machine that works your glutes?"
Really. You want to invite butt comments this soon? I hope you are ready for the response.

On the beach: "I bet you're wondering how I avoid tan lines."
Lame.